It has been a 6 year journey since my divorce to get to a point where I understand where I want to be, and what is worth spending my most valued possession - my time - on.
Finally, I find myself in the last phase of this part of my journey, downsizing my life so that everything I own (except for my vehicle) fits into the smallest space possible. Through this slow purging of "stuff", I now feel lighter than I can ever remember feeling since I was a kid living in my parents' home.
Besides cleaning out the physical clutter, I have cleaned out quite a bit of emotional clutter as well. I have worked hard for the last years to minimize the impact others are allowed to have on my sense of well being. Slowly, I am able to recognize when someone is being toxic, and rather than soaking in their venom, I realize that their ugliness reflects on them, not me, and I move on. I have no control over anyone else's happiness, and I have no responsibility for it. I never want to be the cause of someone else's grief, but I also can not be the cure for it.
So, as I am doing the final de-clutter, in anticipation of moving next week into a small cottage near downtown (in the PERFECT area for running directly from home), I have boiled it all down to this: If it doesn't have REAL meaning, or if it is not an essential item, it is not coming along.
I have done the same thing with my social media feeds. Anyone who is consistently negative has been hidden. I don't want to unfriend people - I still like them and want to be friends with them, but I will keep that exposure to once in a while when we are face to face. If I get to the point that someone's social media posts are affecting the way I feel about them, when I know I like them in our face to face contact, I simply hide their posts. My newsfeed is decidedly upbeat now, except for the occasional grump when someone is having a bad day - totally acceptable.
Years ago, when I would think about what I "wanted", the list had many objects on it. Now, when I list the things I want out of life, very few if any are things that can be bought. I still have a ton of work to do, but I am on the right path, and hopefully that path leads through the woods. And maybe to a waterfall or two.